Adjusting Your Expectations
I was speaking with a dear friend recently who consulted me about a concern she had regarding “her” inheritance. She explained to me that her grandparents, who were quite wealthy, had always led her to believe that she would receive a substantial bequest. As it turned out, the entire estate had been left first to another relative with the unwritten ‘understanding’ that the remainder of it would be subsequently distributed among the grandchildren. Unfortunately, the manner in which the distribution had been made gave her relative complete power over the estate with no binding obligation to leave anything to my friend or the other grandchildren. The grandchildren were now waiting for ‘their inheritance’ from their senior relative which created an atmosphere of uncomfortable tension among the grandchildren.
As a trust and estates practitioner, my friend asked me what could be done to protect ‘her inheritance’. I had the unfortunate job of explaining to my friend that under these circumstances there was little that could be done because given the way the estate plan had been structured, she had no right to ‘her’ inheritance. Unfortunately, my friend’s attitude is not unusual.
Many people are surprised to learn that, with the exception of a spouse and minor or disabled children, there is generally no ‘right’ to inherit. In California, a person retains the right to dispose of property at death as he or she chooses. Generally, as long as proper formalities are observed and the parent or grandparent has adequate capacity, he or she is free to dispose of his or her assets in any manner—no matter how bizarre the testamentary decision. A recent illustration of such capriciousness was Leona Helmsley’s decision to disinherit her grandchildren and instead leaving millions to her dog Trouble.
Moreover, in the absence of fraud, undue influence or competency issues, there is little chance the court system will remedy your perceived slight. In California, will or trust contests are disfavored proceedings with rigid evidentiary requirements; a relatively low percentage of contests are successful. In fact, a challenge to an estate plan is one of the few areas where the California Legislature has eliminated the right to a jury trial.
Are you ‘expecting’ an inheritance? Without a formal and binding contract, you have no legal right to your expectation. In most instances an inheritance is a gift, not a right, and you should consider adjusting your expectations.
Does Your Estate Plan Anticipate the Bereavement Effect?
Families are a complex system of support. No matter the generation, there is usually a division of labor between the principals. In the United States, the stereotypical model envisions a husband employed outside of the home while the wife manages the child care and/or household. Increasingly we are seeing a multitude of models, including the wife functioning as the primary earner or the spouses sharing the roles equally.
Whatever the division of labor, it is not unusual for these roles to change within a family overtime. Perhaps one spouse assumes more responsibility for child care when the other spouse returns to school. Or when one spouse loses his or her job, it is not unusual for the other spouse to become the primary earner. It is this flexibility present in most families that serves as a foundation of strength.
Unfortunately, this foundation of flexibility and support can be severely challenged when one spouse dies. Medical research tells us that when illness or death strikes one spouse, there is an increased likelihood that the other is going to face serious medical problems. Referred to as the “bereavement effect”, researchers have found that your health frequently becomes interdependent on the health of your spouse. In a 2006 study published in the New England Journal of Medicine, the authors concluded that an elderly surviving spouse had between a 17% and 21% of dying within the first year following the death of the first spouse.
Many individuals delay or ignore estate planning assuming it is unnecessary because all of their assets will be inherited by the surviving spouse. A number of planning tools—especially the use of joint tenancy—makes the assumption ostensibly reasonable. But what happens in the event when there is a systematic failure in the family? I have counseled numerous families where the spouse that handled the business affairs passes suddenly, and the surviving spouse is unable to assume all of the management. I have also assisted families where the surviving spouse doesn’t know all of the couple’s assets or how they are managed.
Good estate planning anticipates the bereavement effect by attempting to plan not just for death also but multiple contingencies. Good estate planning allows the surviving spouse to find the assets and assume responsibility for the management of them immediately. If the surviving spouse is not capable of the management role, good estate planning includes contingency plans that allow others to assume the management responsibilities. Good estate planning uses tools—living trusts and durable powers of attorney—to avoid the cost and delay associated with probate court. Does your estate plan anticipate the bereavement effect?
